Ready to find out the number one thing that turns a guy off? Want to really understand how men think. 

Isn't it obvious? Its neediness.

Guys don't want a girl that needs them.  Guys want a girl that is fulfilled without them but still really likes them.  They want someone who is capable, dependable and happy.  Someone who is positive and upbeat when times are hard.  They want somebody who, just once in a while, is confident enough in herself to support THEM when their feeling down. 

Neediness implies lack.  It implies emptiness.  A need to be filled.  Someone who is not fully 'there.' They need another person to complete them.  In general a person like this will repel people away.  Not just men, but friends and family members as well. 

A top quality guy is always willing to be there for his woman if she's having a hard time or needs support.  He'll also understand if sometimes she's feeling a bit insecure or self conscious and needs reassurance.  High quality guys also understand that most relationships come with a little drama, that is par for the course.  However these times should be the exception and not the rule.  Being an emotional crutch and dealing with drama is OK once in a while.  But most of the time the relationship should just be about having fun and enjoying each others company.  To deal with drama everyday or to continually have to reassure you woman is emotionally draining.  Its simply not sustainable.

So do you want to learn how to get over your neediness?

To learn the fine are of dealing with men our website has all the answers. First however, you need to sort your own head out and this is where we come in. We have the most advances techniques and advice to make you a more attractive woman.

In the beginning of your relationship with a new man, its best to take things slow.  Think about how crazy it drives you when your not sure how a man feels about you.  It's the same for them.  The best way to act and feel is that you like him but your not 100% sold on him yet.  If he thinks you are 100% sold on him then he'll take you for granted and not be that bothered about your relationship. 

So thats why when your first dating a man its best to play the field a little.  If you can't see him for a night because you have another date then that will make him want to see you even more.  Plus if you have other options you won't be stuck at home wondering if he's going to call.  You won't be worried because you know that someone else will call you if he doesn't. 

Women often don't understand men and think that if they show a lot of interest the guy will be more attracted to them.  But often this comes off as desperation or neediness.  Guys want a woman is is hard to get.  Not a woman who is playing hard to get, but a woman who is genuinely hard to get.  That means someone who has other options and has a genuinely fun and enjoyable life.  Someone who isn't going to settle for the first guy that will take her. 

Understanding that is one of the keys to understanding men.

I'm a guy who's very interested in the field of dating. In fact it's my specialty.

I give women advice on dating as well as men. I think its a very interesting area which is why I read this book.

"He's Just Not That Into You." By Greg Brehedent and Liz Tocculi

I say "read." I certainly didn't finish it. It was way to boring for that.

Pretty much the only piece of advice the book gives is this:

"If a guys not that into you and your looking for more, dump him."

Its not bad advice. Certainly a lot of women get blinded by their "love" for me and forget to ask but is he just not that into me.

And If he's just not that into you then you should dump him. Straight away.

You can't MAKE a guy like you, thats for sure.

However this is the only piece of advice this book offers and it repeats it ad nauseum. Which doesn't make that one piece of advice any more insightful or entertaining.

Lets take some sample chapter titles:

He's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you

Obviously

He's just not that into you if he's not calling you

Depends on the situation but still nothing groundbreaking here.

The book is also very patronising, It virtually lectures women. I'd only buy this book for someone if I knew they were in a relationship they should get out off. Where the guy just wasn't interested in them at all. And to be honest. I probably still wouldn't by the book for them, I'd just tell them.

Hope this review was helpful.