Understand Men - How To Understand Men

You Love Him But He's Just Not That Into You?

Fri, 22 May 2009 06:43:03 +0700

Well I've got great news for you. You've got to get out of your relationship. Sorry I know that probably not what you were expecting or what you want to here. But it's the truth. You can't make a man like you. And if you've invested so much that you think you're in love with him yet he's just not that into you then you're in real trouble. He's not even that into you!

There is a serious imbalance in your relationship. And if you stay with him its only going to make things worse. You need to get out right now. Your thinking thoughts of marriage and he's thinking thoughts of his secretary. Your thinking about children and he's thinking about pizza. Your thinking about retiring together abroad and he's thinking about retiring your relationship.

You know deep down what's going on. In the bedroom he's just not that excited by you anymore. However this is all great news. Once you get out of your stagnant relationship and pull yourself together the man of your dreams will be right around the corner. There are plenty of Prince Charmings out there who would love and cherish you for who you are. Why stay with one if he's just not that into you? There are guys out there much more compatible with you then your current man. Guys who have the same hobbies as you. Guys that have the same humour. So get out there. Get dating and find the man of your dreams! Then you'll really understand men!

You've Been With Your Guy 3 Months Now But He's Just Not That Into You?

Fri, 22 May 2009 06:31:11 +0700

So you've been with your boyfriend about 3 months or there about. In the beginning you were dreaming of marriage and children, but now your not so sure. Lately it seems like he's just not that into you. I know the feeling understanding men is very tricky.

So what do you do?

Option 1 - Dump him

If he's just not that into you then there's not a lot you can do. If you dump him you can make a clean break. Sooner or later you'll stop thinking about him, You can find someone else who is really into you. Why waste your time on someone who's not into you. This isn't a bad option. It's certainly better than staying in a relationship that's stagnating.

Option 2 - Stick it out with him

This is probably the worst option. A lot of women think they can 'change' men. Which is in the conventional sense is ridiculous. You can't nag a man into changing his ways. You also can't MAKE a man like you. If he's just not that into you, he's just not that into you.

Option 3 - Stay with him but see other people.

This is the best option. It eliminates neediness in the relationship. You won't be up all night wondering if he still likes you if you've got a hot date tomorrow will you? It doesn't decrease your feeling for him but it means you can consider other options. Your man is able to see that you won't be taken for granted and he'll work to win you back. The best way to bring this up is to simply say something like, "I really like you Mick but I think maybe this relationship has got serious to quickly. I think we've kind of got into a rut already. I want to keep seeing you but I want to see other people too." Of course it won't be as easy as that. It will require a long discussion but stick to your guns and you'll get what you want. Tell him the only other option is for you two to break up.

Three solutions if he's just not that into you.

Pick your favorite.

He's Just Not That Into You Anymore

Fri, 22 May 2009 06:25:55 +0700

Don't understand men eh? Join the club. So you've been married for a while now and he's losing interest? Lets look at the signs that he no longer he's just not that into you.

1. He doesn't pay you much attention anymore. He'd rather watch TV then watch you get undressed.

2. He doesn't compliment you. He doesn't even use his pet names for you anymore.

3. He hasn't bought you a gift for ages, especially a romantic gift. Remember that cute little teddy bear he got you. Think back. No further back. Now you remember. Yes, it was quite a while ago wasn't it?

4. I know its a cliche but he forgot your birthday.

(An obvious sign that he's just not that into you.)

5. You rarely do anything fun anymore. There's no spark in your marriage. No flirting and no craziness.

6. He's working all the time. He can't like working that much can he? Anyway no one needs to work 70 hours a week to get a promotion.

7. You don't spend anytime together. The romantic evenings you used to have are over.

8. He'd rather hang out with the boys than you. He's always down the pub with them instead of at home cuddled up with you. In fact he normally makes sure to get in when he knows you'll already be asleep.

So if he's ticks quite a few of these boxes then you have to face the truth. It may have been wonderful once but now he's just not that into you and it's time to move on with your life.

He's Just Not That Into You - Book Review

Fri, 22 May 2009 06:24:39 +0700

I'm a guy who's very interested in the field of dating. In fact it's my specialty.

I give women advice on dating as well as men. I think its a very interesting area which is why I read this book, to understand men more.

"He's Just Not That Into You." By Greg Brehedent and Liz Tocculi

I say "read." I certainly didn't finish it. It was way to boring for that.

Pretty much the only piece of advice the book gives is this:

"If a guys not that into you and your looking for more, dump him."

Its not bad advice. Certainly a lot of women get blinded by their "love" for me and forget to ask but is he just not that into me.

And If he's just not that into you then you should dump him. Straight away.

You can't MAKE a guy like you, thats for sure.

However this is the only piece of advice this book offers and it repeats it ad nauseum. Which doesn't make that one piece of advice any more insightful or entertaining.

Lets take some sample chapter titles:

He's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you

Obviously

He's just not that into you if he's not calling you

Depends on the situation but still nothing groundbreaking here.

The book is also very patronising, It virtually lectures women. I'd only buy this book for someone if I knew they were in a relationship they should get out off. Where the guy just wasn't interested in them at all. And to be honest. I probably still wouldn't by the book for them, I'd just tell them.

Hope this review was helpful.